BULLYING THE BULLIES?

Most of you’ll must have read the news about the bullying of a young 9th grader for the way he dances. It’s really great to see all those people standing up for him, supporting him for having the confidence of coming clean about the bullying. Shows humanity isn’t dead.

But what’s not appreciated is the hate that is being created for the school that the bullies belonged to. Name one school which doesn’t have bullies? Just because one school came clean about having them, doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with everyone from that school. You can’t demote an entire school because of a few stupid heads who thought bullying a fellow student for the way he dances is nothing more than a source of entertainment. Why don’t you’ll realize that the boy who was bullied also belongs to the same school. How big of a hypocrite are you guys being when you’ll support him for being right but at the same time call him all of those things again by insulting his school as a whole? Just because you’ll saw a few of them acting like assholes, you’ll think you have the right to judge everyone that go or went to that school? Nobody freaking gave you that right okay! What if tomorrow someone from your school comes clean about being bullied by their peers, are you’ll wait around and listen to all the hatred created against your school too? No right, nobody will. So how do you’ll expect the students of this school to support you’ll when you talk nothing but crap about their school. They will fight back for their school.

The story has come out recently and because of the pandemic, the school is helpless right now to take any actions against the bullies. So why don’t we wait until the go back to school and see what punishment the school offers instead of sitting around making memes just for attention. And just so you know, by these stupid memes and stuff you guys are making, you’ll are indirectly bullying the school and their students. You guys just one story from the school, what about the others? Do you know what has happened to bullies in the past? Well, let me tell you, loud and clear, they were given what they deserved by their school.

What does bullying even have to do with what school the person goes to? No school promotes or teaches their kids to bully. It all comes from the minds of the bullies because they don’t have any other better thing to do in their lives. And this article comes from someone who doesn’t go that school but knows the difference between right and wrong.

Love, Blue Host.

AN ATTEMPT AT POETRY

They say they are concerned,
But they never show it.
They say they love you,
But they never express it.

They don’t care if you cry or smile,
They don’t care if you walk behind them by a mile.

When you complain, they blame you and cover up their actions,
They tell you to speak but when you do, there’s no interaction.

You stay quiet, no goodbyes, not even a hi,
And when realization hits them, without even thinking, just ask you why?

They make you feel unwanted, like someone who doesn’t matter,
Because, apparently, who you are doesn’t make them flatter.

Taking you for granted is the only thing they know,
And when they outright confess it, your past just says, “I told you so”.

But then something comes along, a little ray of hope,
A blessing in disguise to help you cope.

They make you feel like a princess without the crown,
And tell you to turn that frown upside down.

They stay and they last until forever ends,
And these people are whom you call “True Friends”.

Love, Blue Host.

IT’S MY OPINION

Are opinions wrong or right? What’s your opinion on this? Let’s start with the basics first. What is an opinion? It’s a thought about something that you believe in, something that you think is correct, but that’s just for you. Not everyone might believe what you believe in.

It’s like a diabolical statement which has two or more point of views; like a coin which if u see upside gives you heads but if you turn it around, you get tails. But does that mean that the one you believe in is the right one? Honestly, in my opinion, this whole opinion thing doesn’t really have a wrong or right side. It’s just something you believe in; it’s your choice, doesn’t have to be right or wrong. There are so many people who think that what they believe in is what is correct. They get too defensive when you say something that doesn’t seem correct to them. They try so hard to change your opinion that they don’t understand the difference between an opinion and a fact.

Earlier this day, I had such a difference of opinion with one of my peers. It was over a stupid movie; I don’t like it while he does. And instead of respecting the other person’s choice, we started playing offence and defence. We started explaining to one other why it’s a good or bad movie but we could never reach a conclusion because each of us had strong arguments supporting our statements. And that is what most of do; try to make everyone believe in what we do because we feel we’re right but do we ever stop for a second and think; that maybe, just maybe, what we think may look correct to us and not to everyone else and that is why an opinion is called an ‘opinion’ and not a ‘fact’. We feel we’re always so right about things that we forget about the point of views that other people have and maybe if we try to think once from how they see things, it may not all seem so wrong to us. But the keyword here is ‘maybe’. And this is not a fact, it’s just my opinion.

Love, Blue Host.

TURNED FAMILY

There are people in our life whom we call ‘family’. They’re the ones related to us by blood. But along with them, we all have some people in our lives whom we meet under unexpected circumstances and then suddenly, we can’t imagine our lives without them in it. They have a special place in our heart and life, almost as if they are irreplaceable. They’re there for you whenever you need them. They’re like this little ray of sunshine, full of hope and goodness, that brighten you up and make you forget about all the bad things that exist within your mind and conscience. They don’t demand you to change yourself and love your flaws as much as they love the good qualities you have. They are your friends turned family. I have three people in my life who hold such an importance and without any of them in it, it just feels incomplete.

First, there’s this little girl, the only other female in our small circle. I’m so glad to have known her. She’s really great- inside as well as on the outside. She’s smart, beautiful and also an amazing pianist. She’s been learning to play the piano ever since she was a kid, all by herself, and now she has millions of people who love her and appreciate her for her talent. She and I went to the same school since kindergarten and I never knew who she was until college. Pretty unexpected, right? She’s one of the strongest people I’ve ever known. She’s not had an easy life but despite all her problems at home, she wakes up every day with that same smile and shine that she carries around with her.

Next there’s this guy. Again, an unexpected friendship. He used to live in the apartment in front of me for quite a few years and I never knew him back then. More so, he was friends with my best friend and they would play together almost every day and still, I didn’t know who he was, until now. “I’m not good at advice. Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?”- That’s the kind of guy he is. He has a really bad temper which gets him into trouble but his good qualities top all of that. He’s not afraid of speaking for what he believes in and that’s a quality very few people possess. He’s an amazing athlete as well. But most of all, he’s a loyal and trustworthy friend. He’s that kind of a person whom you can turn to when you want to talk about things just to get them off your chest. He may not be good at giving you a solution or an advice but he’s the best listener you can ever get. He’s been kinda like my personal punching bag too, for me to take off all my anger on, without him getting angry at me because he understands me better than anyone else.

Lastly, there’s this really tall guy. He’s like the most mature and smartest of us all. He has a sense of the world and knows how to deal with every kind of situation in the most amazing way possible. “Sadistic humor is my way of relating with the world”- That’s his motto in life. He plays the guitar and he plays it absolutely gorgeously and he sings too. He’s also an athlete and probably one of the smartest guys at college. Basically, he’s an all- rounder. He excels at anything he does and that’s one of his best qualities. His determination and focus for whatever he’s doing is exceptional. Besides all of that, he’s someone you can seek advice from on anything that concerns you and whatever solution he gives you, it always works. You can talk to him for hours and express all of your problems to him and like a magician; he gives you the perfect solution. He’s like this glue, in our group; holding everyone together when we fight over pesky matters and gets everyone back to normal within no time.

I’ve known these people for a very short amount of time but everyday that I spend without them, just feels like a day wasted. These people are my- Turned Family.

Love, Blue Host.

SNOBBISH TEENS

Parents pamper their kids with all types of things; be it that new remote control car or the biggest Barbie doll house that you can flaunt amongst your friends or that super amazing birthday party which people talk about for days. But as they grow older, they don’t realize when it all has to stop. For our parents, we’re always like that same kid on the first day of kindergarten. But all of this excessive care and love makes some of us dependent on them for everything. We forget that we’re old and mature now and we still behave like the immature baby we were.

Snobbish teenager- that’s the term we use for kids like these. They’re so used to pampering and bossing around everyone that they forgot how old they are and how they should deal with situations. Take this friend of mine as an example. Her parents have always got her everything she ever asked them for. They were like her personal genie- the “Your wish is my command!” type. Anything she ever asked for, she would get it the next morning, and if, by any reason, she didn’t get it, she would cry until she got it.

These kids don’t understand their limits. When they should stop and when they should ask. A sense of independence doesn’t exist in them as much as it should. They are so used to getting everything at their beck and call. Another instance of this is my cousin sister, another spoiled brat. She never respects anyone elder to her. Even though she was never the eldest, she would boss around everyone, including her parents and mine too at times. I remember a particular instance – when she had come over to my place for my birthday. I was out the whole day because I had a scheduled lecture till nine-thirty that night. Taking this opportunity, my parents decided to throw me a birthday party. Since I was going to get late anyway, my mom was pretty relaxed with the cooking since everybody wanted to eat after I came home. But this snobbish sister of mine just walks to up to mom and tells her she’s hungry. My mom offers her some cookies and chips but she insists on having dinner. My mom tells her that dinner isn’t cooked yet. She suddenly just starts crying out of the blue, demanding dinner to be cooked and given to her immediately. And so for her, my mom spends her entire time cooking dinner, just so that my sister could eat instead of spending time with my cousins or helping them be a part of the party they were throwing for me. She missed all the fun because of my sister’s unreasonable demands.

I don’t get it honestly. How can anyone be so air- headed that they cannot even understand what, when and where to demand? How can they be so selfish that the only people they care about is themselves and nobody else? For teenagers like them, I just have one question: How do think this selfish and bossy attitude will work for you when you’re out in to the real world?

Love, Blue Host.

WHO AM I?

Who am I? That’s one question that most of us don’t have the answer to. We try different things everyday to find what our interest lies in but is that what it takes ? Does doing something that maybe interests you for a while or longer define who you are? Some say the social group we live in defines who we are. Some say what job you work for defines you. Some agree that the clothes you wear make up who you are. But is that all?

But what if it’s a mask? What if people are just pretending to be someone they’re not because of reasons. Like wanting to fit in a particular social hierarchy or just fear of being judged by the world. It’s tough, surviving in a place where you don’t think you belong, but you want to. Changing yourself according to their needs just to live up to their expectations.

There are many people around who do that but there are so many who don’t. People who are not afraid of the world, not afraid of what others think or say about them. Such people are inspirations and inspired by a few of them, I bring you this. A path to discovering who you truly are.

I want to share something with you’ll, a secret I discovered while walking down this road. If you’ve would known me two years ago, you’ll find that I wasn’t who I am now. When I just got out of school, I was this lonely kid, depressed from the inside because she didn’t have friends. I did have some back in school but in the end I realised that they only used me for their personal reasons and when they were done with me, I was ignored. I kept making the same mistake over and over again, each year with a different set of people thinking that maybe everyone isn’t the same. But they all were. I had a tough time dealing with this. It used to keep me awake all night. It would make me imagine people from fictious books as my friends. I would even hallucinate about them; not only during my sleep but also at daytime, when I was wide awake. I would be desperate for alone time with all of my windows shut and my door locked, in my room, all by myself. But then as every story gets a shining ray of hope, mine did too. It was when I joined college. At first it was all the same, people purposely talking to me because they had no one around. But then this one day, I met someone. She was in one of the classes; a really sweet person. Despite my attempts to not let in too much, she managed anyway. She introduced me to a bunch of her other friends and in no time, I was a part of them. A part of something. And  those guys? They didn’t make me feel like an outsider. Even though initially I had a hard time fitting in, they welcomed me, always. And soon, I just got in. Things were finally starting to feel great but I was afraid of what they might think if they ever found out about my past. Soon enough, they got to know about it too and even after that they were still the same. It was with them that I started discovering myself more and more. My hallucinations, late nights, nightmares; they all just evaporated into thin air, almost like they were non- existent. It was with them that I discovered my passion about writing and a lot of other things. I dealt with situations in a way that I wouldn’t have dealt with earlier in the same way. I’ve known them for two years now and that’s the longest I’ve ever had friends.
And that’s when I found out this little secret that while you’re on your path of  finding who you are, it’s your friends that lead you to it.

Love, Blue Host.

CHEESY PICK- UP LINES

Okay so, after yesterday’s heavy and depressing talk, I think we need to lighten things up a little bit. And that’s why, today’s talk is gonna be about something that’s a bit of a cringe yet a lot of fun. It’s something that’s almost all of us have used atleast once in their lives: Cheesy Pick- Up Lines.

We see a lot of people use pick up lines to impress others. Some of us have even been victims of it. But despite all of that, we still can’t ignore the fact that, even if it’s just for a second, they make us smile. Yeah maybe a total creep walks up to you and says a really cringey pick- up line to you and all you wanna slap him and you may even do that but later on when you tell your friends about it, it sure as hell becomes a topic for all of you’ll to laugh on.

Okay, so first let’s talk about travel pick- up lines. If your partner likes to travel a lot, is around the world in 80 days kinda type, then these sure work to impress them.
1. Are you from Tennessee? Cause you’re the only ten I see!
2. Are you sure you’re not a tower? Because Eiffel for you.
3. Are you Australian? Cause you meet all of my koala-fications.
4. You must be from Paris cause you’re driving me in-Seine.

Next up is for all of those Potterheads our there. If you’ve fallen for someone who’s a Harry Potter fan, then today is your lucky day because I’ve got just what you need. A bunch of these totally awesome HP pick- up lines that gonna get you the girl/guy of your dreams.
1. Did you just use the stupefy charm or are you a natural stunner?
2. You must play Quidditch. I know a keeper when I see one.
3. The Sorting Hat has spoken and it says I belong in your house.
4. You must be my horcrux, because you complete me.

Imagine you’re out with your friends for a nightclub and this person sitting at the bar just blows your mind away. Can’t decide what to say? Here’s a little bit of help.
1. You owe me a drink. Because I dropped mine, the moment I looked at you.
2. My buddies bet me that I wouldn’t be able to start a conversation with the hottest person here. Wanna buy some drinks with their money?
3. I see you’ve got some tequila. Does that mean you wanna give me a shot?
4. I would love to buy you a drink but then I’d be jealous of the glass.

Those were some of the most badass pick- up ever. Yeah, they do seem like a lot of cringe, but hey, they get the work done, don’t they? So use them and let me know how your experience goes.

Love, Blue Host.

MAYBE

Do you ever feel out of place? Like you don’t belong with the people you’re with. They make you feel like such an outsider that all you wanna do is leave. You stick around thinking that maybe it’s just your overactive imagination that’s saying these crazy things but then every time stuff happens, where they make you realize that you’re not wrong, that they really don’t want you around. They keep saying that you’re important, that your existence matters but always behave the opposite, almost like they’re ashamed to be with you.

It’s funny how hard you try to fit in somewhere when you knew you couldn’t from the beginning. You give it everything you’ve got, do things that you don’t like just so that people would accept you. You wake up everyday, hide all your flaws, fight up a fake smile on your face despite all the negative things going on with you and be with them, trying to impresss them, secretly hoping that they would realise it’s just a mask.

You wish they would understand that you’re not okay, that you’re dealing with things that you don’t know how to deal with. You’ve known them for so long that you just expect them to see that you’re faking, that you’re not the happy- go- lucky soul you’re trying to be, that you’re just so afraid of what’s happening to you, that you’re tired of having to deal with it alone again and again. You don’t want their pity or sympathy, just a support or a reminder that, ‘Hey, you matter to us’.

There are so many people around us everyday who struggle with these things. They can be your friends, siblings or your colleagues. They might be really good at hiding it and pretending that they’re okay but they’re really not. Just talk to them. Ask them how their day was. Ask them about any recent events they encountered. Because sometimes a simple conversation is what it takes to help someone heal.

Love, Blue Host.

RAPE

Dear World,

RAPE. What is rape? A word that creates fear in evey girl’s mind. A thought that makes this world a darker place. A source of entertainment for all those assholes out there. An action that makes a girl’s freedom and independence a reason for society to blame her.

Why? Why does society blame girls whenever they are raped? Why do people think that girls wearing short clothes are the reason for them to get raped? Why is the attitude of people so sick to think that late night travels for a girl are unsafe? Why does it have to be girls all the time?

There are so many rape cases where people only blame the girl. They say that it was late, why was the girl alone? Why did the girl wear such a mini skirt? Why did the girl even go to the bar? It’s obvious that she’s going to get raped if she does things like these?

We say we have democracy where everyone’s rights are protected. We say we believe in equality and justice and that men and women are all equals. Then why are we discriminated when it comes to rape? Why does no one ever blame the disgusting mentality and the low life thinking of those bastards who committed the rape?

They say girls shouldn’t leave their house after dark. Because we’re unsafe. But why are we unsafe? It’s all because of those rapists who are ready, waiting to pounce on a girl just like a lion pounces on his food. It doesn’t matter to them who the girl is, what is she wearing, where is she going. All they care about is their share of fun. But when we respond against these rapists, we are silenced by death. What is our fault then? Standing up for ourselves or living our life ourselves?

If you say that your laws are made to protect us then where are they? Telling us not to leave our houses after dark. Telling us no to wear short clothes. Telling us not to travel alone. But despite all these factors, the number of rape cases haven’t reduced even by a bit. The rapists still go around doonga what they want, rape followed by cold- blooded murders. To hell with these laws then. Instead of putting restrictions on us, why don’t you’ll fix the stupid heads of those bloody rapists. You’ll say you wanna make the world a better place, then where are the efforts? Letting those rapists be on their on the own without any punishment and threats. Are those your ways of making the world a better place? If yes, then I’m sorry to say that you’ll are worse than them. Covering up someone’s crime and letting them go off so easily. That’s a much greater crime than rape.

But it’s about time now. About time, we take the lead. Protect and preserve our rights. Fight for our freedom and stand up for what we believe. Now, if anyone tries to stop us, they’ll be equally as guilty as the rapists. And this time, WE ARE NOT GOING TO STOP.

The Girl Child.

Love, Blue Host.

INSECURITY

Insecurity, a word which everyone’s afraid of. Why? Because it brings with it a feeling that something bad is going to happen. But is that what it actually is?

Insecurity is a very lonely feeling. It’s that feeling you get when you are afraid to lose something that is very precious to you.  Most of us see insecurity as a term used in a relationship. It doesn’t always have to be that way. Friends can get insecure of each other and so can enemies. It’s just a feeling so why relate it to relationships always?

Insecurity doesn’t mean a lack of trust. It doesn’t particularly happen when the trust factor between two people is low. It can happen even when you trust someone the most. It’s a feeling of being scared to lose someone. You get insecure when your best friend gets close to some other person because you are afraid to lose them. You get insecure of a new girl in your boyfriend’s life because you love him and don’t want him to leave. This doesn’t mean that you don’t trust them, right? Because you do with all you heart. It just means that they matter so much to you that even a small thought of being away from them is hurtful to you.

Being insecure is not wrong. Of course it’s not healthy feeling but there’s nothing wrong in feeling insecure. So many people feel that where there is insecurity, there’s no trust. How is that true? If you’re afraid to lose someone from your life, then how do you not trust them? How does the trust factor come in between your fear? Insecurity and trust do not go hand in hand. You may trust a person with all your secrets but yet you will feel insecure if they close to someone else.

Like every coin, insecurity too has two sides. A positive one and a negative one. It’s actually a matter of point of views. Something that’s positive to you may not be the same to another. Like, your boyfriend has meet a new girl in his class and they quickly become good friends. You as a girlfriend start feeling insecure of this. Some may think that you’re such a clingy girlfriend that you cannot tolerate your boyfriend having a female friend while others may think that you love him so much that even a small thought about you losing him is making you so anxious. Similarly, insecurity against a co-worker or a competitor can make you more hard-working or may turn you into a psycho workaholic. It all depends on what point of view who choose to see it from.

Love, Blue Host.