INSECURITY
Insecurity, a word which everyone’s afraid of. Why? Because it brings with it a feeling that something bad is going to happen. But is that what it actually is?
Insecurity is a very lonely feeling. It’s that feeling you get when you are afraid to lose something that is very precious to you. Most of us see insecurity as a term used in a relationship. It doesn’t always have to be that way. Friends can get insecure of each other and so can enemies. It’s just a feeling so why relate it to relationships always?
Insecurity doesn’t mean a lack of trust. It doesn’t particularly happen when the trust factor between two people is low. It can happen even when you trust someone the most. It’s a feeling of being scared to lose someone. You get insecure when your best friend gets close to some other person because you are afraid to lose them. You get insecure of a new girl in your boyfriend’s life because you love him and don’t want him to leave. This doesn’t mean that you don’t trust them, right? Because you do with all you heart. It just means that they matter so much to you that even a small thought of being away from them is hurtful to you.
Being insecure is not wrong. Of course it’s not healthy feeling but there’s nothing wrong in feeling insecure. So many people feel that where there is insecurity, there’s no trust. How is that true? If you’re afraid to lose someone from your life, then how do you not trust them? How does the trust factor come in between your fear? Insecurity and trust do not go hand in hand. You may trust a person with all your secrets but yet you will feel insecure if they close to someone else.
Like every coin, insecurity too has two sides. A positive one and a negative one. It’s actually a matter of point of views. Something that’s positive to you may not be the same to another. Like, your boyfriend has meet a new girl in his class and they quickly become good friends. You as a girlfriend start feeling insecure of this. Some may think that you’re such a clingy girlfriend that you cannot tolerate your boyfriend having a female friend while others may think that you love him so much that even a small thought about you losing him is making you so anxious. Similarly, insecurity against a co-worker or a competitor can make you more hard-working or may turn you into a psycho workaholic. It all depends on what point of view who choose to see it from.
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